At first, that may seem cruel and wrong. But think about it... does using a potty make someone a good person? (answer: even Hitler used the toilet.) Does every drawing warrant the title of a "great" work? No! By always using these terms, we create people who need constant validation and praise.
Instead, we need to foster self-motivation and self-acceptance. Though I slip up ALL THE TIME... I am much more likely to say "Good listening", "Thank you for making a good choice", "Look at all those colors you used!". By commenting on the action, I am letting Hazel know that I am paying attention and I'm encouraging the types of behaviors that I want to see more of. But I'm not teaching her that if she does not do _____ (fill-in-da-blank), she is BAD!
Now it's time for Mama to make a GOOD CHOICE by turning off the computer and TV and taking the kids on a walk!